Anger is a natural feeling or emotion which a person has when something has happened which he/she thinks is bad and unfair. For some, anger is an offshoot of stress or irritation; the way some people dress, talk, eat and express themselves. Reasons for getting angry vary in people. Sometimes when people get angry, the body undergoes some rapid changes like increased heart rate, blood pressure and some hormones like adrenaline is produced by the body. This is where anger management really helps.
Anger Management is simply about how to express your anger properly. This is for persons who have issues controlling their anger. Classifying your type of anger is the basic key to managing your anger. The various types of anger include:
- Assertive anger
- Behavioural anger
- Chronic Anger
- Judgemental Anger
- Overwhelmed anger
- Passive-aggressive anger
Anger management is an answer to various myths and misconceptions about the expression of anger. Many have said that anger is not controllable. Some are of the view that anger is a feeling that cannot be controlled and the aftermath of expressing your anger even to the extent of causing harm or danger to another person is justifiable. Some people also say that it is good not hold your anger in but to let it out immediately, failing to realize that the outbursts of anger can cause a great havoc. Anger management seeks to correct all these wrong notions about anger and help people express their anger better. The goal of anger management is to understand the cognitive message behind your anger and express in a healthier manner. This is as against the false belief of some religious folks who hold that it is wrong to get angry at all.
Anger Management Aids
Identify the main cause(s) of your anger: Causes of anger vary in different people. People with a low level of tolerance tend to jerk off whenever they are amidst people compared to people with high tolerance. The way in which some are brought up is the root of the anger problems of many. To some, anger is just a cover up for either positive or negative emotions they are feeling. For example, a lady who is completely head over heels with a guy might try to cover up her feelings and resort to anger. This is the cause of her anger. Identifying the source of your anger helps a long way in dealing with your anger.
Paying attention to your anger signs: Anger signs in many people vary. The common signs include: increased heart rate, headaches, sweating etc. In some cases it might be a particular person. Identifying when these instances show up and avoiding them goes a long way in anger management.
Learning to Cool Down: A deep breath could help sometime;just taking a few more seconds to cool down. Perhaps, stepping out of that arena might help. At times, walking out of the scene makes you the bigger man.\
Express Your Anger but in a more healthy way
Anger is a natural feeling and so when you fail to express it, you deny your human nature. Healthy ways of expressing your anger could be:
-sitting down to talk about it
-thinking about the harmful effects the outburst of your anger could cause
-letting go of the past and focusing on the present
If anger problem persists, seeking professional help could be helpful.
Professional help includes:
Therapy Sessions: Therapy sessions can be of immense help, however, it would really help a lot if the therapist is someone you are sure you can open up to just to make it more effective.
Anger Management Classes: People who have at a time or the other had anger control issues organize anger management classes for those having these issues with the sole purpose of helping them overcome their anger issues.